What is it like to be Kate Winslet?

So, it isn't very nice that Kate Winslet's marriage has broken up. But it was very nice to have her on all those newspaper front pages the other day, looking so glamorous, poised and other-era-ish, like a proper star. I guess she knows that part of being a proper star is having your private life raked over and speculated about, or being photographed when you don't want it, as well as when you do. But that doesn't mean the frenzy of attention now focused on her isn't horrible, a process that is as ugly as she is beautiful. In the Victorian era, when the vast majority of women were expected to be respectably married for life, actresses and entertainers had a special cultural dispensation to take lovers, be single mothers if they chose, and generally organise their lives as they pleased. Sometimes it feels now as if they are the only women who can expect really forensic and unforgiving scrutiny for doing such things. Very strange.